Behind every closed door is some dark secret that we don't talk about because we're afraid of judgments and misconceptions. Social media, particularly Facebook and Instagram, make things worse by projecting a mirage of perfect lives and images that many are trying to live up to. The curated social world strokes the egos of narcissists with "Likes" while depriving most, particularly the young, from the truth that we're all really just perfectly imperfect.
Three years ago, I started experiencing depression. It was the first time that I realized mental health issues are not just some disease for selected groups, it could happen to anyone. Until this day, I'm still battling with it. However, having suffer through the darkest moments, I learned the importance of detaching from our thoughts. Our mind really has a way of amplifying the positives and the negatives depending on the state of our mental health. On a good day, I'm content with life and hopeful for what the future holds. When darkness hits, I spiral down and become overwhelmed with negativity. Sometimes, I'm so beaten that all hopes are lost, even the desire to keep living. To survive through those moments, I now try to watch my mind play out the movie with equanimity and imagine the positivity that I'd experience on a good day.
Instead of only talking about the good, I hope people will also start sharing more of the not so good. It is by talking about both can we help each other be comfortable with who we are and realize sometimes it's all part of life. Each of our circumstances might be different but our common struggles can help serve as strength to one another. It takes courage to expose our vulnerabilities and I think it's time that we stop decorating the closet doors and start lighting up the darkness inside.